Friday, December 30, 2011

The Downside of Living in a State with Marriage Equality

(The full title of this blog should actually read: "The downside of living in a state with marriage equality while DOMA is still the federal law of the land.")

This is the first year since our marriage that C and I have lived in a state with full marriage equality. This is far and away a good thing, but we have just discovered one very annoying downside: taxes.

Taxes have always been an issue for us and will continue to be until DOMA is repealed. Because DOMA prohibits the IRS from recognizing our marriage, we must file as individuals. Consequently, C and I pay more in federal taxes than we would if one of us owned a vagina.

But this has always been the case for us. There is nothing new along those lines this year.

What is new this year is a consequence of living in a state with full marriage equality. For the first time we find ourselves in that happy situation. But the conflict between Mass law and federal law gives rise to a puzzling amount of paperwork:

C and I must now generate three federal 1040s every year.

For the Feds we will file two individual 1040s. Then we will complete--but not file--a married 1040. The married federal 1040 we will file with Massachusetts along with the Commonwealth's married tax return.

This will be the requisite procedure until DOMA (or at least the portion of DOMA that prevents federal recognition of state marriages) is repealed. So not only will we continue to pay more in federal taxation than heterosexual couples, we will also have to file more paperwork.

Whine whine whine, right? I know, I know. Paperwork is a small price to pay for having our marriage recognized by the state in which we live. But one less set of paperwork is one more thing we are looking forward to once DOMA is history.

Sunday, December 25, 2011

O Holy Night, verse 3 and chorus 2

Truly He taught us to love one another,
His law is love and His gospel is peace.
Chains he shall break, for the slave is our brother.
And in his name all oppression shall cease.
Sweet hymns of joy in grateful chorus raise we,
With all our hearts we praise His holy name.

He knows our need, to our weakness is no stranger,
Behold your King! Before him lowly bend!
Behold your King! Before him lowly bend!

My favorite lines from my favorite carol.

Merry Christmas everybody!

Wednesday, December 14, 2011

C and I are Crying on the Couch

and in 37 seconds you will be crying too. Must maximize before playing.

Breathing Out Lies

Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor.
--Exodus 20:16

There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him: [#6] a false witness who breathes out lies.
--Proverbs 6:16,19a
The Family "Research" Council today released a statement that LGBT groups supported a repeal (which of course did not pass Congress) of the prohibition on bestiality in the US military's code of conduct.

Bestiality. Seriously.


Somewhere in America, a pastor is going to repeat this unvarnished lie from the pulpit this week in a screed about the "homosexual agenda" and the decline of America. Somewhere in America, a frightened kid in a pew struggling with gay feelings is going to hear this and think it is true. Somewhere in America, another gay kid is going to contemplate suicide.

This is some sick shit.

Monday, December 12, 2011

Our Home

We finally got around to taking photos of our new digs, and we thought it would share them with the world. My apologies that some of the photos look a bit washed out or blurry; we just used the camera on my phone :-/

If you need a quick reminder, here's what the outside of our home looks like. Okay, now for the inside.

The view into our dining and living rooms from the kitchen:

The living room/Joe's "study" :-) :

Our bedroom (and yes, the bed usually is made... but there are usually clothes on the floor :-P) :

C's study/office (eat your heart out, IKEA):

The kitchen:

Breathing Out Lies

Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor.
--Exodus 20:16
There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him: [#6] a false witness who breathes out lies.
--Proverbs 6:16,19a

Equality Matters has collected a list of some of the things Tony Perkins (president of the Family "Research" Council) has recently said about LGBT folks:
  • “It Gets Better” project tries to “recruit” kids into a “lifestyle” of “perversion.” [FRC donation mailer, 8/18/11]

  • “Research is overwhelming” that gay men are more likely to molest children. [MSNBC Hardball, 11/29/11]

  • Gay teens commit suicide because they know being gay is “abnormal.” [National Public Radio, 10/26/10]

  • Anti-bullying programs promote “indoctrination into homosexuality.” [Fox News, America’s Newsroom, 5/26/11]

  • Senators who vote for DADT repeal will have “the blood of innocent soldiers on their hands.” [FRC online Washington Update, 12/16/10]

  • "Kids do worse in these same-sex households. They’re more susceptible to violence.” [Fox News, Fox & Friends Sunday, 4/24/11]

  • Gays are trying to “spread fear and intimidation so that they can disrupt and destabilize” the legal system, like terrorists. [Washington Watch radio show, 4/29/11]

Sunday, December 11, 2011

Found: Crawfish in New England

Hoh hoh hoh hoh hoh... Merry Christmas to us!

After months of looking, today we finally located a store in New England that sells crawfish. Today suddenly turned into etoufee Sunday for us :-)

Next experiment: we're interested to see what our Cajun recipes taste like if we substitute lobster for crawfish. Not sure how it'll turn out, but we'll try anything once...