Thursday, July 28, 2011

It Works in BOTH Temporal Directions

The Best Things in Life


1. Walking out of work and seeing the man I love waiting for me in the car.
2. Taking walks with him in the evenings.
3. Looking over websites of potential future apartments with him.
4. Laughing with him over red wine and his handmade caprese salads.
5. Falling asleep next to him. Every night.

How did we ever make it living apart for three years?

I love this marriage thing :-)

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Boston, Baby!

My apologies for suspense, but I wanted to wait until I had given notice at work before posting this news online: we're moving to Boston! ...or the Northwest suburbs of Boston, to be more precise.


C has accepted a tenure-track engineering faculty position at the University of Massachusetts Lowell (in Lowell, obviously) and I have accepted a control systems engineering position at MIT Lincoln Laboratory (in Lexington).

UMass Lowell Engineering

MIT Lincoln Lab

Today I gave my two weeks' notice at work. It actually went over miraculously well with my boss. I explained to him how staying with Cat wasn't really an option for us, as Cat's policy is to withhold medical benefits from married or civilly united spouses of gay employees. My manager astonished me by telling me how my decision made sense to him and that he would likely do something similar if he were in my situation. He went on to say that I would be leaving with a high rating, and he would welcome me back if I were to ever return to Cat. He said he was glad I was willing to continue working two more weeks, and would welcome me staying "as long as I would like".

Unfortunately I can't stay much longer. UMass Lowell begins fall classes September 1, so we are operating on an aggressive schedule between now and the end of August. This weekend we will travel to Iowa City to visit C's family for the last time before leaving the Midwest. Next weekend we're flying to Boston for an apartment-hunting trip. The following weekend we will visit with my extended family in Chicago for the last time before leaving the Midwest and will have a going-away party with our friends in Peoria. Then we pick up the UHaul and the movers arrive that Tuesday...


...and 3 or 4 days later, we should be pulling up to our new place in Lowell. or Billerica. or wherever we wind up landing. Then we'll have about a week to unpack, buy a second car, and get C's office and lab squared away at the University before the students arrive. Yoiks! I'm glad I have a little more time before my start date (September 12).

So excited, though. For the past three years our dream has been to live under the same roof... and at long last it is coming to pass :-)

Thursday, July 21, 2011

Epic Win: Focus on the Family Senate Smackdown

Finally. At long last. After years of distorting, misrepresenting, and outright lying about the scholarship on LGBT people, Focus on the Family was publicly called out on it. During a freakin Senate hearing.


If only this same scenario could be repeated for the past 30 years of slander and falsehoods about LGBT people that FOTF has distributed to evangelical Christians around the world...

UPDATE: The lead author of the study cited by FOTF clarifies that Minnery did in fact misquote the study:
“Sen. Franken is right,” the lead author of the study told POLITICO. The survey did not exclude same-sex couples, said Debra L. Blackwell, Ph.D., nor did it exclude them from the “nuclear family” category provided their family met the study’s definition.

The study’s definition of nuclear family is: “one or more children living with two parents who are married to one another and are each biological or adoptive parents of all the children in the family.
hat tip: BTB

Super Freakin' Excited



We got some fantastic news yesterday. Details to come later (I am presently recovering from my hangover from celebrations last night :-) )

Thursday, July 14, 2011

Gay Marriage Will Lead to Straight Marriage Being Outlawed

Aside: this sermon is given by a preacher named Mike Bickle. The first time I was ever pushed over/"slain in the spirit" was at an altar call he gave at my undergraduate church.

Sunday, July 10, 2011

Best AutoCorrects from June 2011


You've probably seen a link like this before, but these are the latest and greatest from last month. AMAZING. C and I are laughing so hard we're crying reading these.

Highlights:











Is it any surprise that the funniest are ones sent to parents? Reminds me of my little text message slip-up with my Mom in February. "Family? In Boston?" ROFL :-)

New Wedding Rings

In celebration of our third first (June 14 2008) and second second (July 5 2009) wedding anniversaries, as well as our first civil union (June 1 2011), C and I have decided to purchase new wedding rings. We exchanged matching brushed titanium rings at our first wedding three years ago, but while the brushing has stayed in near-mint condition on mine, the brushing on C's has worn completely off. C's ring now looks something like a scratched washer (we like to joke that this has some symbolic indication of who is more invested in the relationship/who cares more about the marriage/etc, but we have seriously been discussing replacement rings for two years).

Today we made our choice and ordered two new rings. Brace yourselves, these are simultaneously the coolest and enginerdiest rings you've probably ever seen :-)



And yes, the gears are fully functional. All the pinion gears turn, counterrotating the perimeter rack gears. Check out this supercool video of the ring in motion :-)

C will be beginning a tenure-track position as a mechanical engineering professor this fall; I'm eager to see the response his wedding ring receives from his students.

Aside: An unexpected benefit of being a gay male couple is how relatively inexpensive men's wedding rings are compared to women's engagement and wedding rings (Our original rings cost about $100 each; these are slightly more expensive, at $170 each. Compare that to the multi-thousand dollar diamond ring one of my brothers bought for his wife). Now I've got nothing against women or wives or opposite-sex marriage, but I think it might be cool if gay marriage winds up dealing an unexpected blow* to the bloated wedding-industrial complex/blood diamond trade...

*I guess most of any impact will depend on whether lesbians buy each other traditional diamond rings for their engagement/weddings. Hmm. I actually don't personally know many lesbian couples, much less any married lesbian couples. Do any of you? If so, do they wear diamond rings?

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Miracle Spring Water! Now in Larger Size!



I just ordered mine; nothing can stop me from finding a job in Boston now!

Tuesday, July 5, 2011

Happy Second Second Anniversary to Us


Two years ago today, C and I repeated our vows to each other at the Quaker Meeting in Iowa City, C's hometown. However, after signing a second traditional Quaker marriage certificate along with all the guests in attendance that day, C and I also signed our legal marriage license.


Though we are again 200 miles apart tonight, Happy Second Second Anniversary, the Man I Love.

...make that the *Dr.* Man I Love :-D