Monday, October 12, 2009

New Maine Equality Ad

In case you haven't seen it yet, check out this new ad from Maine's No on One campaign. I like it. A lot.

Maine could very likely be the first U.S. state to popularly elect to have gay marriage. Please help this possibility become reality by donating and/or volunteering today.

Thanks :-)

(Aside: I would cry bucketloads of tears if one day my own mother would sit next to me and C and our kid(s) and say similar things.)

Monday, October 5, 2009

I'd Wish It on Everyone

A few weeks ago I read a short yet compelling story on I'm from Driftwood. I've been turning over what the author said ever since. I thought I'd share it with you and see what you think.
People don’t usually ask you what it’s like to be gay. They ask you how your parents reacted when you came out to them. They ask you when you knew. But they never ask what it feels like or what it means to you. When I tell straight people that I’m gay, sometimes they fall all over themselves trying to let me know that it’s okay with them. Sometimes, they get really quiet and end the conversation. Lately they’ve been asking if I got married before Prop 8 passed.

The only time I can remember anyone asking me what being gay means to me was in Paru Paru, Peru. I was working with a group of American teenagers and local Andean farmers planting potatoes. One of the teenagers started telling me about a friend of his who’s a lesbian.

“She’s awesome,” he said. “Really fearless. Like she walks around town barefoot. But she thinks being gay is the worst thing that’s happened to her. She wouldn’t wish it on anyone. What’s it like for you?”

There was the question I always wish people would ask. (And here it was coming from a sixteen year old.) In the least expected place, thousands of miles from my hometown and my current home, I finally got to tell someone what it feels like to me.

I got to tell this young kid that being gay has brought me an incredible relationship with my partner, a unique perspective on the world, a community of interesting people, empathy for those who are “different,” the comfort that my family loves me in spite of what they might see as unforgivable, and a whole lot of confidence in who I am. I finally got to say that being gay is one of the biggest blessings in my life.

“I would wish it on everyone,” I told him.

I wish someone had told me that when I was sixteen.
I've been asked before whether, given the existence of a magic pill, if I would choose today to not be gay. I've also been asked, if given the opportunity to live my life again and the power to choose my orientation, would I choose to be gay.

But I've never really considered the question of whether I'd choose for someone else to be gay.
I would wish it on everyone.
Wow. I didn't know what to think about this the first time I read it. I've been thinking about it for awhile now, and I definitely have some thoughts to share.

But first I'm curious to know what others think. Does this statement provoke any thoughts for you? For that matter, what would you say to the other two questions I alluded to above? Just to summarize, the questions on the table are the following:
  1. If you had the power to select your orientation from this moment onward, would you choose to be gay?
  2. If you had the power to live your life again and had the power to select your orientation, would you choose to be gay?
  3. If you had the power to select the orientation of others, would you choose for someone/anyone to be gay?
Happily mulling my own answers to these questions and eager to hear yours,


Don't be Gay. Don't Smoke.

The CDC has released a remarkably effective new ad campaign aimed at curbing teen smoking.

Hilarious. Funniest thing to happen in the War on Drugs in a long time :-)

hat tip: my buddy Bryce