Monday, January 14, 2008

Meet Terrance

Meet Terrance:
black. gay. father. vegetarian. liberal.
The cool image on the left is from his blog, The Republic of T. What I find especially interesting about Terrance are his blogs about being a father to the children he and his partner have adopted.
My husband and I have been together for almost seven years, after meeting through a personals ad on Love@AOL. (I answered his.) In November of 2002, we became parents upon adopting our son, who was just four days old when we took home from the hospital.
That was his first son, Parker, to be precise. Terrence recently posted the following about the recent adoption of their second son, Dylan, in an entry tenderly titled "From Three to Four." In it, Terrance describes some of the complexities of adoption, including the week-or-so-long (depending on the state where the adoption takes place) waiting period before the legal guardianship is transferred.

The baby. We had a long night and an anxious morning, because we'd been told that the birthmother was signing away custody of the baby, and would be discharged from the hospital that morning. The agency would call us around noon on Tuesday, Dec. 4, to let us know when it was done and we could hit the road. They called, said the papers were signed and that we should start traveling. And then they added that the baby was being discharged that same day.

We arrived at the hospital around 4:00 p.m. on Tuesday, and immediately went up to see him. Just over an hour later we were walking out of the hospital with him, and we camped out at an extended stay hotel, waiting for the interstate compact to process, so we could take him home. At noon on Wednesday, the agency called to say that the birthmother came to their office and signed the parental rights papers. It was done. They told us she was accompanied and supported by family, and expressed that she felt very good about her decision and about choosing us as adoptive parents. She chose not to meet us in person, because of her healing process after the adoption, but we were open to meeting and remain open to contact in the future.

After about two weeks, the Tuesday before the holiday, we finally got the call that we could legally take the baby home. We left that morning and arrived home in the afternoon.


And the baby? We're just thrilled and stunned that he's with us. Parker in particular always want to "see the baby" and always wants to give him a kiss goodnight, give him his pacifier or run to get the bottle when the baby is hungry. We're naming him Dylan.

Awww :-) Congratulations to you and your husband, Terrance! Have fun being an older brother, Parker :-)

1 comment:

D.J. Free! said...

hmmm . . . i don't know how i feel about that. i'm largely under the opinion that the homosexuals shouldn't be raising children.

kidding. scared ya, didn't i? ;)

dude, that's so adorable. do you think that you and C would ever considering adopting?